Dear Fola Folagbade x Mute Efe

I am reading the back and forth posts.

And…

…maybe it’s okay to have these debates.

Life is definitely complicated.

And generalization may not do us too good.

When we talk about single mothers, everyone is immediately tensed.

The convo is usually tensed.

It’s a sensitive subject.

Why?

Just as there are dumb married women who still have their marriages intact, there are, unfortunately, dumb women who are now single mothers because they had no brains.

There are women who became single mothers because of their terrible behaviour and attitude.

In the same way, there are fantastic women who became single mothers because they chose wisdom, life, and peace of mind.Those who unfortunately got married to demons.

And there are those who wanted to be single mothers by choice.

Yeah.

I know two.

They don’t want husbands.

They want kids and vibrators.

They picked the men they wanted and got pregnant.

Then dumped the men.

Yeah.

I know two.

So these ones, for instance, when they hear the generalizations, they laugh or giggle and scroll up. They count the generalization as just another opinion piece.

— There are single mothers looking for “high-value” men.

— There are single mothers who themselves are “high-value” women.

So you see, generalization is the true bastard here.

Life is too complicated for generalizations.

There are people that possibly deserve the flogging of Mute’s hard “truths.”

And we definitely need a Fola to show up and speak up for “others.

“And there is one more category of persons who care less.They are unmoved. They only pity people such “floggings” affect.

In this life…You will learn to be strong for yourself.

Many single mothers are strong for themselves.

Some of them are even too strong.

They know what they have to do.And this “high-value” conversation is not cast in stone.

You think you know what “high-value” is until you don’t.

You think you know what “high-value” men want until you experience some stories.

In the Bible, the prophet Hosea is a “high-value” man who married a prostitute—Gomer—at God’s instruction.

Yeah…Generalization is the bastard.

Your Single Mother

SpotterEdiale

#ForTheCulture

PS: Again, I believe there are amazing single mothers out there. It’s like tomorrow Simi being available and you say Ediale should not go and marry Simi because she is a single mother. “We go fight. I go change am for you”.