Dear Davido

We pray you find strength. Your woman, Chioma, needs God’s comfort right now. We pray for your family. It’s crazy pain to lose any child. It’s the craziest pain to lose a child by accident. Especially when there’s everything to secure the safety of that child. Especially when the child is loved.

The swimming lessons of Daddy Davido. Davido’s verdict that “this boy go learn quick”. And the fact that his 3rd birthday just got celebrated in style. These sequences makes it all the more painful. And there’s the stupidity of culture as well. An idiot already made a post alluding to rituals.

However the greatest pain will come from blame. Though clueless people will blame parents for not being too cautious or caring or too concerned enough to allow a child exposed to a swimming pool without a guard. People forget that no parent ever stays with a child forever. One split second, one innocent nap, one moment of relaxation, is all a child needs to fall in danger. Sadly when this happened. Both parents weren’t around.

At this moment, even the parents will blame themselves. They will always believed there’s something they could have done to avoid this terrible sadness. Davido will feel so. Chioma won’t forgive herself. But the truth is only God can in deed be there for everyone. We are only humans at the end of the day.

The strength that helped Dbanj and his wife survive the same tragic situation some years ago. Is what is needed right now. The swimming pool in our homes should now be barricaded. It’s about time. Going forward, this should be the norm for people with kids.

Celebrities should endeavor to have the old fashion savior called Nannies. Nannies should take shift. And their primary job should be babysitting. Very necessary for celebs. Trusted nannies, for morning and night shifts.

People have been arrested on this matter. And these things happened in the heat of the moment. We hope the innocent ones among them are finally allowed to go by the good law. Negligence happened. Sadly so. But we pray for comfort. After the blame game ends. We are humans. Blame game is our sport. If we were immortals there’d be no reasons for blame game in the first place.

Kids death are tragic. Sadly it happens on a daily basis in Nigeria and other parts of the world. It’s one death culture and tradition forbids. It’s handled differently in cultures and traditions. It’s responsible for many divorce cases. And for some couples as well it’s the reason they become inseparable. Because the duo in relationship understands in love that it’s the best thing to do. To help the other party stay strong. For no one deserves to mourn alone.

It’s a bad news. It spread so fast. Not because Nigerians love bad news. It’s because Nigerians love Davido. And people who celebrate with people, always also mourn with people. Nigerians feel the pain with Davido and as such they talked about it. Many people wanted it to be false.

And so at different intervals, within the moments of uncertainties. You’d read a post that suggests it was either a mere rumour. Or that it was debunked and the child was doing well. Some of those persons just made the posts as prophecies. For them it was what they hoped for — a miracle.

But those who could put calls through to the family started doing so. For others they only needed to come out of their houses and take a lazy quick drive to the Davido’s house or the hospital. Smart journalists just called police station.

For others still doubting. When they saw Eniola’s Badmus post of a black background with a broken heart symbol and a caption that reads “Oh why?”. They understood it was a sad truth. When they saw Daddy Freeze’s sad Social Media Live Sessions. And Tastebuds candle light post. They knew their fears was a fact. And AY went on to make post of condolence. Other celebreties followed. Then Punch and other top Newspapers could also publish their confirmations.

Your Sad spotter
Ediale

PS: Pray for Davido and Chioma — by extension, for others going through such pain.